Marriage Counseling 101

Sep 26

Did you know that around 40% of marriages end in divorce? Of course, nobody who is getting married thinks that they could be part of this statistic, but after the honeymoon phase wears off, they very well could be. All married couples experience problems in their relationships, no matter how in love they are. It’s up to the couple to decide how they’re going to deal with them.

Luckily, there are people who make it their business to help couples through their struggling marriages. That’s right! I’m talking about marriage counselors. Many couples are biased against marriage counseling, but it can prove to be very effective if they’re willing to give it a chance.

Countless studies show that couples who go through marriage counseling stand a better chance of staying together than those who don’t. However, studies also show that in order for the marriage to survive, couples have to be willing to take control of their own behaviors and use what they learn during counseling. Just going to a counselor is not a magic fix-all.

Here are some things marriage counselors can help a couple with, according to Austin-based marriage counselor Kathleen Snyder:

  • Lack of Communication
  • Conflict and Resentment
  • Drifting Apart
  • Affair Recovery
  • Differences in Parenting Style
  • Obstacles to Sexual Intimacy
  • Balancing Work and Family

Any number of these issues can escalate into marriage-ending problems. Any relationship, regardless of whether it’s a marriage, can be tricky to navigate. People at different stages of their marriage go through different problems. For instance, couples in established marriages may find their relationship growing stale. Nobody wants to stay in a passionless marriage, which can lead to other problems, such as resentment or even infidelity. Couples in new marriages may find that they didn’t know each other as well as they thought they did. That can be a tough pill to swallow, especially since the couple will likely still be excited about other aspects of the marriage.

Of course, one of the main obstacles keeping people away from marriage counseling is that they don’t want to admit that they have problems in the first place. That’s step #1. If a couple can agree that they need help enough to talk to a counselor, they’ve already taken an important step to repairing the relationship. Next, people have to be willing to change. Problems in a marriage are hardly ever caused by just one spouse. Often, both partners will complicate small issues until they’re too interwoven to be blamed on just one person. 

Couples have to understand that fixing a troubled marriage is a process that takes time. Studies show that the more counseling sessions a couple attends, the more likely they are to stay together. If you’re in a troubled marriage, you might want to consider marriage counseling. Making the investment now can save you both a lot of heartbreak later on. 

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An Overreaction or a Mixed-Up Doctor?

Jun 08

When you have a funny feeling that something’s not quite right with your body, your second step is usually to go to the doctor. I say the second step because most of us tend to do a quick search on the internet to find out if we have some rare, terminal condition. Of course, we realize that that’s probably not the case, and that’s when we make the trip to the doctor.

After taking your height and weight, the doctor asks about your family history. They’ll then run a battery of tests and scans on you. If you think it’s something as simple as strep throat or the flu, they’ll probably take your temperature and then swab the inside of your mouth. This is so they can take a culture and see what bacteria may be lurking in there. After, you’ll probably get sent home with prescription for antibiotics and a doctor’s note to take the day off and rest.

Sometimes our issues don’t have that clear of a solution. Certain symptoms are indicative of a larger problem, but present themselves as only being minor inconveniences. A lot of doctors can chalk headaches up to stress, caffeine withdrawal, or even a sinus infection.

They can send their patients home with little-to-no advice, and then the patient is forced to fend for themselves. This is an increasingly common problem with women’s healthcare. Severe cramps or other issues regarding menstruation get written off as the woman being “overdramatic,” and their doctor tells them to take ibuprofen and use a heating pad.

Polycystic ovary syndrome (or PCOS) and endometriosis are two different issues regarding the female reproductive system that often get overlooked.

When patients aren’t listened to, their health only deteriorates. Many choose to stop seeking care for fear that they’ll be ignored again. Hopefully, they’ll keep looking for a doctor who will actually take the time to sit down and listen to them.

Any doctor worth their salt won’t stop searching for answers until they find the solution. Sadly, this often comes at the patient’s expense. In the time it took them to find a decent doctor, the issue that was plaguing them will have had time to get that much worse.

This means that treatment will be more costly than it should have been, and sometimes the best doctor isn’t covered by the patient’s insurance policy. Chapman Injury Lawyers know how hard it is for a patient to cover their bills when their original doctor has failed to diagnose them properly. If you feel like your doctor wasn’t doing all that they could to help keep you safe, get in contact with an attorney that will listen to you and hold the doctor accountable for their malpractice.

A doctor’s poor oversight shouldn’t cost you your health or financial wellbeing. Just because your doctor has failed you doesn’t mean a lawyer will too. Fight for your own right to healthcare; not only will you be helping yourself, but you’ll also be protecting the next potential victim from a bad doctor.

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How Amphetamines Work

Feb 22

Cases of ADHD have skyrocketed in this country since the 1980s. It seems like ADHD medication is rampant, and it becomes more and more prevalent every year. I’ve heard of some kids as young as thirteen or fourteen being prescribed Adderall for their ADHD. Giving these kids stimulant drugs is strange to me. I was talking to my son who’s visiting home again after his first semester of college, and it sounds like ADHD drugs are being distributed around for recreational purposes quite a bit. My son doesn’t do them, but he says he can get them if he wanted. That’s weird to think about since they’re such intense medications. Some can have effects that last more than 8 hours. Others can lead to serious dependence issues and withdrawal symptoms. I started thinking, can you get in legal trouble for distributing these drugs around? I took to the internet and I found some insightful information on the Powderly Law Firm website. The lawyers at this firm handle cases specifically related to amphetamines.

ADHD drugs like Adderall, Ritalin, and Vyvanse are all types of amphetamines. They are meant to increase focus and productivity. They work by releasing dopamine into the brain. You would think that for someone with ADHD, extra dopamine might inhibit their work, as dopamine is a happy reward chemical. But the extra dose of dopamine actually helps those with ADHD to calm down and focus, as they’re not constantly wanting dopamine and getting distracted. When adults with ADHD use these drugs correctly, it can be a great thing. They can get more work done, and be more productive during business hours. The trouble is that these drugs can also be abused. Many young adults and college students specifically will abuse these drugs in order to get a leg up in school or in their careers. They will take the drug in order to study longer, work harder, and get better grades. The problem is that their drug use isn’t being supervised by a medical professional. When this happens, young adults can end up becoming dependent very quickly. They might also develop heart issues. Some college kids actually combine these drugs with alcohol, which is incredibly hard on your heart. This is because the amphetamines naturally raise your heart rate while alcohol naturally lowers it. The contradiction in substances causes your heart to undergo a lot of stress to beat normally.

Because of all the health risks associated with these drugs, it is illegal to use them without a prescription. It is also illegal to sell them or even possess them without a doctor’s approval. Being caught with these drugs can result in felony-level drug charges. If you or a loved one finds themselves in legal trouble because of amphetamine possession, I would highly recommend hiring a lawyer. A lawyer may be able to reduce your charge and set up a deal that can eventually get the charge removed from your criminal history.

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Important Services for Busy Lifestyles

Jul 20

As technology continues to change the way society operates, you may have found yourself stretched for time. The busy lifestyles that modern US citizens endure may be exciting, but it can also be challenging to keep track of everything. Some people manage to work long hours, have a social life, find time to exercise, and still watch their favorite shows on Netflix, but at what cost? Life can be more than a little hectic when there are so many places to go, things to do, and people to see. Luckily, there are services out there that promise to make life easier. Here are some important services for people who are always active:

Grocery Store Pickups

The most recent trend to hit supermarkets around the country is grocery stores offering curbside pickup. All you have to do is go online and add the items you want to the shopping cart. You will be given a scheduled time to pick up your groceries, and an employee will expertly navigate he store to gather your items. Once it’s ready, all you have to do is pull up and wait for them to load the groceries into your vehicle. The best part is most places do not raise the price of their groceries, but simply add a $5 fee for the service. How much is your time worth?

Dog Walking Service

We love our dogs like our children, and it’s important that your dog gets plenty of exercise. However, sometimes our work schedules get in the way. Instead of keeping your dog locked inside for hours at a time, you can hire a service like this to come to your house and take your dog for a walk. The employees go through rigorous background checks and owners get real-time updates on their phone as to when the service arrives, where they go on the walk, and when they return your dog back home.

House Cleaning

A clean house instills good feelings and a sense of relaxation for homeowners. As busy as you are, you don’t want to come home to a dirty house that needs attention. Instead, you can hire a maid to come in once every other week for relatively cheap. They won’t pick up and organize your mess, but they will dust, vacuum, and change bed sheets. Of course, if you don’t feel comfortable with people being inside your home while you are away, you can always buy a robot that cleans for you.


Until driverless cars become the standard, try using rideshare apps to save precious time performing other tasks instead of focusing on the road. Plus, you won’t have to get stressed about driving in traffic ever again. You can read that book you’ve always wanted to finish, respond to emails in the backseat, or work on the powerpoint presentation you need to deliver next week. These services are cheap and easy to find, and they’re becoming more popular everyday.

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What is a prenuptial agreement?

Oct 01

Whenever I hear the word “prenup”, I automatically think about the song Gold Digger by Kanye West. The lyrics go, “If you ain’t no punk holla ‘We Want Prenup.’ ‘We want prenup!’” But what is a prenuptial agreement and who are they really for?

Prenuptial agreements are not just for the wealth, explains Andrea Berkowitz, a New York attorney at Stutman Stutman & Lichtenstein, LLP. In fact, prenuptial agreements can actually work for both parties, especially as couples marry later in life and have more assets.

While the conversation about signing a prenuptial agreement before marriage may be nerve-wracking and seemingly hurtful, Berkowitz explains that a prenuptial agreement can be an opportunity for the partner who is not considered the “monied spouse.” How is this possible? While one partner may have more assets and wealth than the other, the “non-monied spouse” still may have separate concerns about financial security. The prenuptial agreement can help protect the rights of the “non-monied spouse” too. Berkowitz even goes on to recommend that all couples have a clear contract before marriage.

The major concern with divorce is that one spouse may exit the workforce after children are born and have a difficult time rejoining the workforce after time away. While exiting the workforce may be a planned event for some, it becomes a necessity for others when one spouse has to care for the children and cannot work at the same time. Rather than promising re-entry into the workforce, a prenuptial agreement provides for the spouse who stays at home with the children in the event that marriage does not work out. A prenuptial agreement can ensure that the partner outside of the workforce receives a set percentage of their former spouse’s income.

The terms of a prenuptial agreement help guarantee financial support in the event of a divorce. Signing a prenuptial agreement can give both parties more freedom and security during a marriage, and help mitigate the issues of divorce if it occurs in the future.

According to the Law Offices of Baden V. Mansfield, prenuptial agreements can help with the “division of assets, visitation rights to children, custody of children”, and alimony. However, the lawyers at the Law Offices of Baden V. Mansfield explain that each prenuptial agreement is unique to the couple’s situation. By discussing the division of assets, visitation rights to children, custody of children, and alimony upfront, couples can avoid lengthy and costly divorce settlements.

Prenuptial agreements can also include “lifestyle clauses,” according to attorney Lois Liberman. Lieberman explains that some agreements include stipulations about where a child is to be raised even in the event of a divorce. She continues by explaining that “Prenups are contracts that are supposed to be utilized during death or divorce.” Some lifestyle clauses are more wild, penalizing a partner for cursing or a changing physical appearance. While it is difficult to enforce these rules during a marriage, they often can be used to penalize someone in the event of a divorce.

Prenuptial agreements are not just for the wealthy; they can be used by a variety of couples to secure their respective financial futures. While some of the lifestyle clauses are a bit ridiculous, prenuptial agreements help couples divide assets, delineate visitation rights and custody of children, and deal with alimony upfront.

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